Friday, December 14, 2012
Today I am talking about the Super Single Mum. I figured it would take forever if I listed ALL the super women I know and these 3 ladies have that in common. My first super single Mum friend was made so, after finding a cheating husband when she was pregnant with there second son!! Yes those scummy men do exist. Despite him and not a penny in child support, she raised her 2 boys to be fine young men now 20 and almost 23. One is away at University and the other about to be married. She is one of those gals who knows all about you and still loves you. The kind where you don't talk for a whole year and then it's like you are hanging out on the couch with a blanket. We were each others spouse in the days when I too was a single Mum, watching each others kids so the other could work and generally being a support. There were nights when I was so devastatingly lonely that I'd scoop my sleeping babies up in a quilt, throw them in the car and head to my friends. She'd open the door and without a word I would plop down in front of her TV with a boy under each arm pit snoozing and an hour or so later I would leave. She understood without words, why I was there. When I met Boyd and moved to the US I was most worried about my friend but she was over joyed for me and cheered me all the way. She spent the next 10 years alone but then met a man and is now married and happy.She is a caretaker to his adult kids and anyone else who needs it, she is really one of those friends who would literally give you here last grain of rice, I have seen it with my own eyes and through some very personal, sacred times I have seen Christs hands in hers. My second single Mum friend, isn't actually single at all but has a husband who works 12 hour shifts at strange times and often sleeps when they are awake. He also has some hobbies that take him away for hours on end and I admire this woman for various reasons. Being single, you at least get a little offer of support but if your not, only you are, you really really are on your own. I will say little more about her except that in my eyes she also is a super woman. She is bubbly, happy and creative with unwavering faith. She has 4 very successful kids, all involved and productive and who have had to really learn how to help out at home. My final single Mum friend has only become so officially after 20 plus years of marriage in which she was pretty much single. I admire her for so many reasons, she is a true super woman. She owns and runs a very successful business whilst being the hands on parent that is at every game, meet or performance. Her kids are over achievers and that is because of her. They are national level ranked in various things, traveling the country to compete. She has had to go back to school and get a degree for her work as well as all her other duties. The thing I like most about her is how fun she is, always planning a party or night out. She is a huge Disney fan and goes 2 or 3 times a year. I just love being around her. The reason I wanted to share about these super women is not to make anyone feel bad about themselves but they all have something in common.... They Like ME!!! It's funny that sometimes we get down and feeling like we don't have friends and then I realize, the ones I do have are amazing and like me for me. They do not have requirements or expectations of me or are jealous or intimidated. They don't need me to dress or act a certain way to fit with them. They have melt downs and crazy days and accept that I do too. We can go long periods without talking but when we do, we have a genuine interest and love for each other. They like me I think because they like themselves and because they can really have a good swear at me without me being shocked :-) I have learned a lot from the super women in my life, My list of them goes on and on. I aspire to be better because of them so I continue to surround my self with people who lift me up but mostly I find being around people who like themselves is just a great place to be. It makes it so I am able to reach out a hand and do the lifting for someone, not doing so well. I encourage you to see these super women as I do and instead of feeling bad about shortcomings , feel great that there are role models who can lead and guide us in areas we wish to improve. I mean I could also list all the areas these ladies suck ;-) lol but I choose to focus on the positive.
Thursday, December 13, 2012
Tuesday, December 11, 2012
I have read a lot of articles lately that I expect were created to help us feel better about our short comings as women , wives or mothers. They make fun of things like, getting a healthy dinner on the table every night, hand making gifts or having a clean home, suggesting that if we do all the things required of us, we don't have a life and might just drop dead but I am here to proclaim, that this is not true and many women I know are going beyond the call of duty every single day. We just need to recognize that what we do do is an achievement. Some of the very most basic things can have lasting effect on those around us and make us feel quite accomplished. I personally know so many super women, who's daily behaviors inspire me to do better (they are all living in disguise, as regular ladies and they too have total meltdowns and days of despair)but I thought it might be fun to highlight some of those who had mean't a lot to me in my life. The thing is, we can learn a little from each of them, after all we are here to learn and improve ourselves. My Longest Friend My first Super woman is my longest friend. She moved in next door to me when she was 2 and I was 3 years old. We were besties, both little tom boys and inseparable, that was until her parents divorced and she went off to live with her Dad, sad day but her Mum chose the new boyfriend over kids. I would visit when I could, taking a bus the long hour ride. She grew up with 2 older brothers and a Dad who had to work around the clock so she was playing Mum at a very young age. Most domestic duties fell to her and at age 16 (When we finish high school in England) She was working full time. It was with her that I had my first, life changing experience. We were aged 17/18 and I was staying with her for a week whilst I did a work experience in a fancy health club. We were walking back to her home and less than half a mile away, just around the block when She was jumped from behind. A man with a stocking on his head, held a knife to her throat and told told me to do exactly as he said or she would be seriously hurt. This is where I found out if I was a fight or flight kind of girl. I went nuts, screaming and shouting and waving my arms, trying to flag down a car as he backed her towards some bushes. She was frozen but I wasn't going anywhere. Fortunately my crazy was a bit much for him as he threw her to the ground and ran off in the bushes, I don't know if I carried her limp body or dragged her but I got her home in record time and called the police. He was never found but I learned a lot from that experience, mostly "YES, It CAN happen to you" Sadly her Dad died quite young and I'm sure she dealt with some emotional baggage from all that went on in her youth but you would never know it. She has a cheerful countenance and always a kind word to say on a Facebook Post or similar. She is now 40 years old, has been married going on 20 years with two daughters. She worked the past several years in school, the hours work better than her corporate job. She has recently gone back to college to pursue a further education. Sometimes we have a rough hand dealt us but taking charge of our own destiny and working to achieve our dreams at any age is quite brave. I would say she is a real life super woman, dressed in regular woman clothes. I am excited to share my next superwoman with you.
Tuesday, November 13, 2012
I think the word "weenie" or "weener" is just wrong, I realize I have spelled them incorrectly, but I wanted to be sure they are pronounced as intended. I know I'm a little late on this post but I just wanted to share what our Halloween looked like.
Sunday, November 11, 2012
Wednesday, November 7, 2012
I thought I'd show a little gratitude Jimmy Fallon Style ( or is it Jimmy Kimmel?, well the younger, better looking, funny Jimmy) Que, melodic thought provoking music... Thank You: Presidential decision, for giving me that anxious, hopeless gut sick feeling I got when I thought my house was going to burn down. Thank You: Paper plates, for allowing me to use you everyday and not just on special occasions. Thank You: bathroom, for allowing me to be your sole care giver. Thank You: Over achiever new neighbor, for saying yes you will do it, so I don't have to. Thank You: Facebook sidebar, for profiling me and then tempting me daily with cute shoes made for 20 somethings. Thank You: Google designers: for the cute little cartoon logo each day reminding me that today there is nothing to celebrate. Thank You: Marriane, for being my only regular reader/commenter ;-) Hope you all are thankful for something today.
Thursday, October 25, 2012
Halloween costumes stopped being fun for me after the third year in a row that everyone was a ninja. I thought having a little girl might revamp my excitement as the vision of dancing fairies and Cindy Loo Who's became a possibility but alas the only girlie picture I have is from a gift that I forced a photo of and then it was buried in the "dress ups" box for other girls to play in.
Monday, October 22, 2012
Last time someone told me to pull my big girl pants up, I almost did the opposite and "mooned" them. Fortunately, since I spotted the two men wandering up the gravel path way, I had time to change my plans. It was 2am and my group of girls were out in the woods playing some weird game, where you spin and stare up at the stars, then when you get super dizzy, you stop, stare into a flash light and drop like a rock! Good times. Well this is the only time I camp. Girls camp. It's proper dirt in the nails, don't wash for a week, drop your load in a bucket kind of camping and I am not a fan. Not one bit! I have, however heard of this other type of luxury camping and it sounded intriguing to me, so for the sake of my kids having a well rounded upbringing that doesn't include "aww MUUUM, do we have to go to England? can't we just go on a cruise?" (QUOTE)I thought I'd give camping a go.Renting works out for us, since we don't plan to do it regularly enough to warrant the purchase, storage and maintenance of a big rig like this, as well as the cost of a big enough, reliable car/truck to tow distances. Loading and getting ready was fairly straight forward since there are tons of lists available and we have used this kind of resource before. Unloading was also super quick and we didn't have camp fire smell to deal with since we had used BBQ and stove tops to cook. The trailer itself set up super quick, maybe 20- 30 minutes and taking it down was about the same. Bless my mans heart for having to flush and detach the black hose ;-) yes some jobs are absolutely man jobs. Along with scaring you wife whilst driving your SUV along the road reserved for razors and jeeps(don't roll your eyes at me Honey) Just saying.
Tuesday, October 16, 2012
All this pinning has got me inspired. I have been having a crafty period. This happens from time to time, usually after seeing something at quilted bear for a ridiculous cost and thinking "I could make that" (you know you do it too!) well I actually do, so I thought I'd share a few things I've made this month. 15 of these ($29 each at QB, $5 to make)